Thoughts on marriage..

Yesterday we celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary!!! That day was probably the happiest day of my life.. Earlier today I caught myself thinking what makes a marriage successful, or a relationship to be more precise. Browsing through the internet I found various posts tagged under "the best rules for a happy marriage". I agreed with all of them more or less. But here are some of the things that keep our marriage..



Χθες γιορτάσαμε την 8η επέτειο του γάμου μας!!!.Εκείνη η μέρα ήταν πιθανόν η πιο ευτυχισμένη μέρα της ζωής μου.. Νωρίτερα σκεφτόμουν τι κάνει ένα γάμο επιτυχημένο ή μια σχέση για να είμαι πιο ακριβής. Σερφάροντας στο ίντερνετ είδα διάφορα ποστ σχετικά με κανόνες για έναν ευτυχισμένο γάμο. Συμφωνώ με όλα λίγο-πολύ αλλά παρακάτω είναι μερικοί από τους λόγους που κάνουν το δικό μας γάμο επιτυχημένο..
  1. We talk about everything. About our son, work, sex, anything that comes to mind. There is nothing that I don't share with him. And by talking I mean talking honestly. 
  2. We argue. And we apologize, simple as that. Hey, nobody is perfect!
  3. We go to bed angry. I wake up like shit but sometimes is better to shut up and just sleep than say all the wrong things (which I do when I'm mad). Everything will get better with a morning kiss.
  4. We met while I was a water polo player too. So sharing the same passion for a hobby or any other matter is a big deal. It's been ages (actually 8) since I gave up on water polo but I can understand his worries or hectic schedule.
  5. We enjoy each others company. But we still do our own things. For example, he loves to watch movies, I love the internet.
  6. We hug and kiss each other often.
  7. I am his number one priority for the little things up to the most important ones, even before our son. I struggle a bit with this after being a mother..
  8. He buys me presents! A huuuge bonus!!!
  9. We share the same beliefs about parenthood. This is a strong foundation for our relationship except the fact that we both love deeply our boy. 
  10. SEX is great!!! Enough said..(my mother is reading this, OK?)

"ένας πετυχημένος γάμος απαιτεί να ερωτεύεσαι πολλές φορές, πάντα με τον ίδιο άνθρωπο" 
  1. Συζητάμε για τα πάντα. Για το παιδί μας, τη δουλειά, το σεξ, οτιδήποτε έρχεται στο μυαλό. Δεν υπάρχει τίποτα που να μην μοιράζομαι μαζί του. Κι όταν λέμε "συζητάμε" εννοώ με ειλικρίνεια
  2. Μαλώνουμε και ζητάμε συγνώμη, τόσο απλά. Κανείς δεν είναι τέλειος!
  3. Πάμε στο κρεβάτι μαλωμένοι. Ξυπνάω χάλια αλλά καμιά φορά είναι καλύτερα να το βουλώνεις και να κοιμάσαι παρά να λες όλα τα λάθος πράγματα (που το κάνω όταν είμαι θυμωμένη). Όλα θα φτιάξουν μ' ένα πρωινό φιλί..
  4. Γνωριστήκαμε όταν έπαιζα κι εγώ πόλο. Οπότε το να μοιράζεσαι το ίδιο πάθος για ένα χόμπι ή οτιδήποτε άλλο είναι μεγάλη υπόθεση. Είναι 8 χρόνια που σταμάτησα το πόλο αλλά μπορώ να καταλάβω τις ανησυχίες του ή το κουραστικό πρόγραμμα του.
  5. Απολαμβάνουμε ο ένας τη παρέα του άλλου. Παρόλα αυτά ο καθένας κάνει τα δικά του πράγματα. Για παράδειγμα στον Κώστα αρέσουν οι ταινίες, εμένα μου αρέσει το ίντερνετ
  6. Αγκαλιαζόμαστε και φιλιόμαστε συνέχεια
  7. Είμαι η Νο 1 προτεραιότητα του από τα μικρά πράγματα έως τα πολύ σημαντικά, ακόμα και πάνω από το γιο μας! Εγώ το παλεύω λίγο, τώρα που έγινα μαμά
  8. Μου αγοράζει δώρα! Μεγαααλο πλεονέκτημα!
  9. Μοιραζόμαστε τις ίδιες αντιλήψεις για την ανατροφή του Δημήτρη. Αυτό θέτει ισχυρή βάση για την σχέση μας εκτός του ότι και οι δυο λατρεύουμε το παιδί μας.
  10. Το σεξ είναι τέλειο!!! Αρκετά είπα..(το διαβάζει κι η μητέρα μου αυτό, ΟK?)
"Μη παντρεύεσαι έναν άντρα εκτός κι αν θα ήσουν περήφανη να έχεις ένα γιο ακριβώς σαν αυτόν" 


This is the song we danced in our wedding!!!
Αυτό είναι το τραγούδι που χορέψαμε στο γάμο μας!
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Tell me your thoughts on a happy relationship, regardless being married or not..I would love to hear!

Πείτε μου την άποψη σας σχετικά με τις ευτυχισμένες σχέσεις, άσχετα αν είστε παντρεμένοι ή όχι. Θα μου άρεσε να τις ακούσω!




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  1. I know this post is a little long but I read it the other day and thought it was appropriate to share here:
    Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

    Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

    I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

    Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

    Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

    Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

    My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

    It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

    My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

    No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

    Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

    But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

    SKwedding394
    Marriage is about family.

    I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

    To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

    And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

    Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.

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